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we are talking parent stuff this afternoon and we're continuing with our
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ask the professional series with Dr Lin Kenny who is the author of the family
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coach method RF Dr Lin will first of all welcome dr. Landy back we have a
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question from Lindsay who is a mom of three and she has a question here it is
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hi dr. Lin my name's Lindsay and I have three boys and what do you do when one
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of them is cognitively ahead of the other children and their grade but
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socially there behind you you move them up or do you keep them where they are
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that is such a good question so many parents face that too
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absolutely absolutely like they know that their kids are more advanced when
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it comes to school but sometimes mature wise it's not and that happens a lot
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especially when you've got a synchronous development in the brain sometimes
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you'll have kids who are really cognitively achieving a lot they're
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really good at math you know maybe one or two grades ahead but they don't
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understand social cues they don't know how to fit in with the group so parents
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faces question should i put them ahead or not
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yeah exactly well when it comes to kids that are gifted at what age should we be
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testing our kids to see if they are well you know you really can learn at any age
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I think it's important to know that the definition of gifted varies in every
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state and often in different districts ok so in up in many states it's the 97th
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percentile so if your child is taking whether it's a group administered tester
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like a whisk and they're testing in the top three percent of the population of
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their same-age peers then they're identified gifted now gift it isn't all
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great I've got to be honest with you
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really yes everybody thinks that the bragg term but it's not do anything even
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lots of different things you might already be you might be creatively
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gifted I mean there's engineering creativity no gardeners got all those
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emotional intelligence but the thing with giftedness in the school system is
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that it's about academia
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ok so what age you know you can tell a super intelligent child sometimes at two
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years of age but I don't like to test them before they're five because your
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brain is still developing and I don't want to miss the kid and then you don't
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run a regular retest really before six months to a year so i usually test those
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kids at five when they're going to go into kindergarten
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ok first grade you know anytime those elementary years is good
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ok any time to vote so if you have a child that is gifted as a parent and
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let's say you feel that they're not matured you move them forward do you put
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them in advanced classes I mean what do you do go largely there they're
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stimulated yeah you can you can stimulate a child really well without
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putting them had a grade so it's gonna be an individual you know decision okay
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first are they gifted have they been identified because the school system has
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to provide specific services to you've got to go to websites and join Arizona
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gifted the association of Arizona gifted because then you're going to meet like
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peers in March every March there's a great conference that azz gifted puts on
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and there are 250 parents that attend so one identify is your child in that you
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know 97th percentile or not to join the organizations and then three really make
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it a team decision when you're when you're gonna put them ahead or not
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because you can enrich your child by participating in lots of programs doing
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things at home doing some pull out strategies without necessarily changing
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a great ok so consult with your child's school also
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yeah we're taking this and the child to the child have an opinion amount i think
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absolutely and you know my biggest questions people ask me all the time
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should put my kid up and I say are they happy
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ok like this group of friends are they you know because we can enrich them lots
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of different ways they're also self-contained gifted classes now
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throughout Arizona
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okay great well some good advice there I do have one more question for ya when
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you know Lindsay said that she thought that her child was socially behind what
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exactly does that mean to be socially behind you know every child is different
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but what it means to me is there not reading social cues there maybe they're
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still goofy and silly and the other kids have passed that by maybe they're not on
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and noticing their hygiene or dressing appropriately they're just not right in
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the social animal kingdom like the other kids her age I like that some really
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good advice i actually learned something today about that it's not always that
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great to be a gift when it comes to academia so some great about their
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doctrine thank you
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